I had a great career before I became a stay at home mum (SAHM). I was flying as a Lead Cabin attendant with a leading Airline in India. I loved my work completely. I was so addicted to the awesome lifestyle it gave me, that I never thought I would ever stop doing it for any other job in the world, until I got tied up in this special one. But in the beginning, I didn’t know if I would love staying at home and not getting up to go to “work” every day, earning a pay check, flying to different cities everyday, partying hard, shopping like crazy.

Life isn’t easy with a new born baby. Life with a newborn and becoming a Stay at home mom at the same time gave me a double trouble. I went through all the feels as they say. I missed my job. I missed my routine. I knew evrything about the job I did, but had absolutely no clue as to how to be a mother and how to be a wife all at the same time. Absolutely no clue. But like most things in life, you just figure things out. 

With each passing day, I became more confident. I kept praying, and life just got better. Every day it did, and two and a half years later, it still does. I learned that although different, this life of being a stay-at-home mom has some amazing perks. However, it took me a while to get here to this place of sanity and happiness.

If I could give an advice to a new stay at home mom who is transitioning into the new season of staying at home with a newborn and dealing with this HUGE life change, it would be this:

Dear New Stay-at-home mom, 

You would feel really lonely at first, but soon it will get better. You may feel like you have lost your mind, but it will get better. There would be some really hard days, when you feel nothing is going as planned, and everything is going out of your hand, but it will get better.stayathomemom2 On certain days you would forget almost everything, from whether you had a bath to whether you ate your food, but don’t worry, your memory will return one day. Maybe not just yet, but it will get better.

The structure or lack thereof of your days is going to be an ever-changing anomaly, but it will get better.

If you’re breastfeeding, it’s going to feel like you are a just nursing around the clock, but it will get better. You would feel like you would never get to sleep in peace again, but it will get better. You may feel you will never be able to have a bath or pee without an audience, but it will get better. You would feel like you would never wear any of your favorite old clothes again, but it will get better.

It’s going to feel like you have no sense of belonging because most of your friends are too busy or you’re too busy, but it will get better.
You may feel you would never be able to have an intimate life like before with your husband, but don’t worry it will get better.
You will wonder if your husband is adjusting to this new life as great as you are, but it will get better.
You’ll long for date nights and girl’s nights, but it will get better.
stayathomemom4You’ll wonder if you will ever figure out how to be a mom, a housekeeper, a wife, a cook, a snot sucker, baby bouncer, milk maker, newborn entertainer, sleepwalker, etc., but it will get better. 
There will be days when you cry and then cry some more because your hormones are going to be out of control. Let it out, because it will get better.
You’ll feel like you’re just surviving at first, and that is good. Survival is good. Don’t let anyone tell you any different. Eventually you’ll be thriving. You just wait. It’ll happen. It will get better.
You might feel like you’ve forgotten your purpose in life, but it’ll come to you. Life will get better.
Because your purpose will strike you like a bolt of lightening out of the blue one day like most “woohoo!” moments do, and you’ll realize that your purpose is so clear.
To be a mom. To be a strong woman and role model to that little baby you’re raising each day. To be a good wife. To be a friend. To be a sister. To be a daughter. Because you matter. You always have. It just looks differently now. 
You see, your “going to work” is going to quickly turn into you waking up and picking up that amazing little muffin. You’ll be greeted with smiles and hugs and eventually, “mama!”. You’ll mingle with some new co-workers, the new friends you’ve made who are also stay-at-home moms. And you’ll realize that this season, this gig, is exactly where you’re meant to be.
Keep on keeping on. It does indeed get better.

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Preetjyot

Becoming a parent, flipped my world upside down, and there was no way I was going to miss the first laugh, the first word, the first step, or any milestone in between.Staying at home not only meant quality time with my daughter, but also allowed more time to do what I love…Pen my thoughts down on my blog.
I strongly believe in breaking all the stereotype ways of parenting.
For me parenting is all about love and fun. My girls and I believe in jamming out in the car, in dancing in the rains, and in miracles. We believe in smiling till our cheek hurt and laughing till our neighbours’ ears burst. Parenting definitely comes with loads of challenges,but trust me facing these challenges becomes much more easier by having a fun and a happy attitude towards it.
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