Are you Going Back to Work or Staying Home with your baby?
I’ve asked myself this question twice, and both times, I’ve answered it differently. Once during my pregnancy and once post delivery when I had #mylittlemuffin in my arms. Everyone seems to have a very strong opinion on, whether to go back to work or stay home with the baby. And, for some of us, it’s not a question of “yes” or “no.” Instead, there are a lot of factors involved in making this tough decision.
Here are 8 questions to ask yourself when you’re making the decision:
1# What is the best choice for you?
Is this actually YOUR decision and are YOU comfortable with it. Make sure your choice isn’t determined by your neighbors, your friends, your family, etc. Remember, every Mom is different. And the arrangement that worked for someone else might not work for you, so be sure with your choice. Don’t get inspired by any other example around you. Remember every mommy baby combination is different.
2# What is the best choice for your child?
Make sure you are considering the needs of your child. One of my friend’s child thrived in childcare, but another one’s child had very different needs. Pay close attention to your child to get a sense of whether or not they could handle being in a large childcare, in-home childcare, nanny, or with a family member all day while you are gone. Some kids can, some kids struggle through this.
3# Do you WANT to stay home with your kids?
Staying home full time isn’t for everyone, while others can’t imagine it any other way. It’s okay if you do, it’s okay if you don’t, but make sure you check in with yourself about what you want. Give yourself some time with your baby. At times I may feel its difficult to be a stay at home mom, but in the end I would start enjoying every bit of it. This also gives you time to find your passion, which is difficult to follow while you are working.4# Is it financially wise for you to start working ?
Make sure to consider your finances in all of this. I know of someone who had to work for her first child, but her entire paycheck would have gone to childcare if she went back to work with her second one. Be sure to look at all of your financial options and weight the benefits of both decisions.
5# Do you WANT to work?
The camaraderie with coworkers, the accomplishment of working on projects, having time away from your kids, etc. can be very beneficial for some moms and that’s okay! So kick the guilt out of your way, and go ahead with what you want.
6# Is there an end?
Can you be home with your baby for a period of time before returning to work? Some women get an extension on their maternity leave which helps them dramatically (both financially and emotionally). Or, do you want to stay home forever? Sometimes, there can be options if you ask and investigate.
7# Do you want to do BOTH?
Staying at home with your kids and working part time is always an option. Its great how moms are considering staying home and working from home to earn an income. This way you are getting the best of both worlds.
This is the most important question to be answered. With either decision, it’s important to find support. Let friends and family know what you are deciding and how they can help. If you are going back to work, you’ll need help when the baby is sick and needs to stay home. If you are staying home with your kids, you may need help getting out and connecting with friends. If you are really struggling with this choice, be sure to find a professional to help you through what can be a very emotional decision.
Tip: If you are going back to work, try going back on a Thursday or Friday so that you don’t go back for an entire week. It helps to have the weekend closer when you make that transition!
How did you make your choice?
Please do share with me your views on the post and also if it helps you in any way!!!