8 Things you should never do – in order to protect your self respect There are things in life that need more attention because these are the ones that will help you grow as an individual and there are things that need attention because you need to work hard to avoid them. In this post […]
Struggling with life and feeling that you are failing at it? Life offers unlimited opportunities to everyone, it’s just that we need to mindfully be able to recognise these and make the most of them. Do you know why you must be struggling with life and feeling that you are failing?
Struggles instil great amount of strength, tenacity and courage within us. But before they do that, they might end up leaving us drained out and defeated.
Read about how Limiting belief and emotional blind spots can harm us in this post.
I always keep talking about the importance of indulging in self love on my blog and social media, but recently I realised that most of us have misunderstood this term. Let’s straight away dive into it. Self Love is to truly appreciate oneself and indulge in activities that would support one’s psychological, spiritual and physical growth. It means giving your own happiness and well-being the deserved regard and attention. It means making a conscious choice to not sacrifice your mental and physical well-being to please others. Self love is when we don’t settle for anything less than what we deserve.
One thing that no parent want their kids to go through is bullying. This isn’t a new term for most of us. A bully ideally targets people who they feel don’t fit in. They could end up targeting someone based on their behavior, appearance, race/ religion, popularity status or sexual identity. This post will help parents empower their kids so they are able to deal with bullies and win over them.
Angry child – Don’t let anger fool you or your child! As a mental health advocate I have learnt that there is always much more to anger than what meets the eyes.
Anger mostly acts as a protective purpose for children, thus it’s important to not allow your child’s anger fool or misguide you. Take this opportunity to understand your child and bond with them better.
Narcissists have a strong belief of being superior to other people, hence they always expect some kind of special treatment and admiration. They are unable to acknowledge their own insecurities, which results in narcissistic behaviours like a sense of entitlement, an extreme need for attention and validation and superficiality. Read this post to understand how a narcissist could play with your mind and soul.
Are you making your child feel responsible for your emotions? If yes, Avoid saying the below statements to your child, and replace them with effective statements as mentioned in this blog post.
It’s unfair when we burden our kids with the responsibility of making sure that our emotions aren’t affected by their actions. Instead of loading our kids with this responsibility, we must focus on making our kids aware about their own feeling – big or small.
One trick that has always worked for me and my clients is to tell the kids what they CAN do, instead of telling them just what not to do, so there is no confusion.
Kids mostly love to please their elders, hence showing them how they can, would really help them.
In this scenario the main goal is to model gentle behaviour in front of them, something which they would copy or at least start to register consciously.
In this post I will share things that have proven to be helpful to me and my clients. You know your child best, hence feel free to tweak the suggestions as per your comfort. You would have to deal with biting, shoving or hitting the moment you see it happens. Waiting even for a minute or until you get home isn’t going to help as by that time, they would have already forgotten the incident and won’t be able to understand the severity of the situation.
When should you stop a child from hitting?
I know it isn’t an easy task to figure out how to stop a child from hitting!
For the first time Parents it’s an even more shocking and tedious process.
How one helps the child stop hitting would look different for different age groups, however in this post I would share my expertise of what worked for my thousands of parents and kids clients.
Some people are not completely in touch with their feelings, however for those who understand their deep feelings sharing their vulnerability could feel like venturing into a different world. They know and are aware that they could end up getting hurt at the the end of it. Even then, one could end up taking a chance and not think about it much at first. Vulnerability is connected to one of the hardest feelings to bear : i.e. SHAME. It’s normal to do anything to the best of your capability to avoid feelings like shame and anger, or being defensive and act in a compulsive or addictive behaviour.
If your kids have lied or have tried to deceive you, you must understand that it is normal childhood behaviour. It is a parent’s job to teach them right from wrong. Take out special time to guide them away from lies and towards an environment where they can openly speak the truth. They would definitely thank you for taking the extra time to teach them this important life lesson.
I heard this from my grandfather ( Nanaji) years back. I didn’t know it’s depth back then, but my mother echoed this quote into my ears for years. Just saying this out loud fills me with immense power.
Language development of your newborn by talking often :
Talking is the biggest milestones for a baby and there’s a lot that a parent can do to help the baby to be a master at chatting once he grows older. Get all your questions related to ‘Talking to your baby’ answered in this post.
Parenting During Pandemic is hard. The children are likely to show emotions and feelings that they must have not shown before.
Check out this post to know about some practical and simple tips.
Even though it isn’t a great feeling to see one’s children in an emotionally weak state, we must accept that it’s perfectly OK if they show some signs of anxiety or sadness.
If you feel that separation anxiety is just for kids, hold your thought and read on.
When you become a parent, you are likely to experience a fraught with emotions. You may find yourself feeling extremely happy and joyous at your baby’s birth at one moment, and may experience an immense sense of responsibility. At certain times you would feel an intense fear to do everything right for your baby.
There might be times an extreme desire to be able to protect your baby from the world around may lead to a couple of problems for your baby and you.
This live video is going to benefit all parents and people who deal with kids on a daily basis. The Topic for this live was – The Protection of Children from Sexual Offences Act which is also called as (POCSO) Act and we have also discussed in details about Child Abuse.
Did you know that kids from the age of 7-17 often suffer from anxiety or depression? In this blog post I will help you decode both the cases. Identifying these can help you take necessary help right in time. Many children have worries and fears, and may feel hopeless and sad times and again. You may watch the video below to understand this in more details.
If your life looks great on paper but feels not so great in real life, we need to take a pause.
I can help you enjoy the success you have strived so hard to achieve without having to sacrifice your soul to find it.
I can help your child balance academic well being with personal health and happiness.
A session with me help you become the happiest person you would know.
I beleive that each of us have the potential to create the change we want to see in the world. but too often we get stuck feeling like we can’t.
I would love to help you and your kids change that.
If you have a child between 7 -18, this blog is for you! It could be just what you’ve been looking for! My name is Preetjyot Kaur and I have been sharing about my parenting journey on my blog mylittlemuffin.com since over 6 years. I loved my job as a mom blogger.. But over time when I connected with various mothers through my blog and I realised something!
Unrealistic expectations can break you.
During the beginning phase of lockdown did you start with plans of doing something truly meaningful and productive?
Have you been pushing yourself to self-improve and focusing on your productivity?
If this is true it’s quite possible that you are feeling overwhelmed because you are simply not able to achieve the ‘unrealistic’ expectations you may have set for yourself.
Loving myself makes me a happy and content Parent. No! That doesn’t make me a selfish Parent. Hang in there and read the quote on the image below please. Now read this again! Keep reading this affirmation again and again until it hits you hard.
Imagination is something that can help us be productive in life.
Honestly, I feel lack of imagination limits our adventures in life.
While growing up, Imagination helps us to explore the untold world.
Decision – Take charge and write your own story. We often obsess over making the right decision. Did you wonder why? I believe that most of us assume that the universe would reward us for one decision and punish us for the other.
Want To know these magic parenting formulas? The moment I realized I was expecting my first child, I was determined to be a good mother just like any other woman. I always knew I wanted to do it the right way. Everyone around me showered me with their take on motherhood. I was in constant search for a magic parenting formula.
Here is a list of a few things that I feel are important to help my child succeed in school??? Its evident that the family’s involvement in young children’s education may contribute not only to a smooth transition to elementary school for children, but also for parents, by helping to prepare them for later involvement in their children’s learning.
I didn’t expect the note to do so much for my daughters. My only intention was to make them smile, in case they felt a little lonely at the new school.
This note did much more for us than that.
It made our girls realize that we were in this together.
Sorry?
We don’t make our daughters say ‘Sorry’!
In this post you will find what we do instead.
Time and again I have seen and I’m too sure you must have too… a child runs past and almost knocks down another child, screaming an unapologetic ‘Sorry’ and runs off to continue playing.
Children are often taught to say ‘Sorry’ way before they are capable of feeling sorry for any of their actions. Does this sound familiar to you?
Post delivery Truth bomb – Other mothers might feel and look better than you: I won’t lie! This truth is extremely hard to swallow. But I’m glad I got over this feeling soon enough. We must understand that everyone has their own way to deal with things. Just the way others won’t go through what you did, you wouldn’t go through what others did.
Fun Memories are what your child’s memory bank needs. We make infinite deposits in our children’s memory banks everyday knowingly and unknowingly.
One of the most important tasks as a parent is to model and nurture healthy self esteem in our children. It does take a lot of time and care to help a child adopt the habit of body positivity. It won’t be an easy feat, and I must warn you to be ready to be bombarded with some tough questions that have extremely tough answers.
Read this post to know how I work towards immunising my daughters against poor body image.
Self love is the key to being a happy mother.
Don’t be too hard on yourself to become a better parent.The world around you changes overnight after you become a parent. A baby doesn’t just fill your life with new responsibilities but also influences your sleep, daily schedule, your diet and most importantly the amount of time you spend in the washroom. Read this post to know how I fell in love with myself all over again.
Lets all pledge to stop tagging our own or others’ kids as ‘ a SHY child’. Lets stop making a hue and cry over our child having her ‘SHY’ moment. Let’s not judge our kids or others’. Lets just let the kids enjoy the beautiful phase they are in.
Trick to limit Screen Time – Our little Secret. With the motive to limit Screen Time I started following this simple trick. Bonus: Happier kids. I let my daughters sit in front of the computer or any other gadget, that’s because I choose to teach my girls how to balance spending time in front of a gadget in a healthy way in their life. Check this post to know what is it that we are doing differently.
I’m a firm believer of learning through play.
It’s highly believed that quite a less number of kids are born with mathematical talent, while the rest don’t have the ability to succeed at a higher level. Cognitive science has lately proven this myth to be wrong.
Human brain isn’t hardwired. It continues to develop throughout one’s life. Incremental learning could help in the emergence of new abilities. Check out my post to read about some awesome benefits of incremental challenging toys.
My daughter’s first letter to Santa disclosed something really sweet about her
I was surprised at her confidence. Not even once did she stop and looked confused. She knew what she wanted right inside that tiny little head. Totally headstrong to finish her first letter.
Its about a confession. Confession of a New mom.I write to tell you you’re not alone.
You’re not alone when you realize motherhood is the single hardest thing you’ve ever done (Been there).
Let me share with you the 5 Reasons why I choose to buy fewer toys and you would be surprised to know the number of benefits it has. My little girls have gained a lot by giving away their toys and to know how, please read on.
In the midst of trying to make your child’s vacation happening, we often miss out on a very important thing. That is making sure your child is safe in such a busy environment.
#READINGISFUNNYDAY
Yes!!!
I am not kidding, there really is a day called Reading is Funny Day. Though this a rare known fact. 1st April is also celebrated as reading is funny day 😀
Have you come across a book for your child that made you fall down laughing?
I am sure that’s a rare case !!!
Yes!! There are definitely some fun books that would make you laugh out loud!!! If you are looking to have a fun laughing session while reading with your young ones, read on.
Here are some books that will definitely make you laugh your lungs out:
Make sure you practice reading out aloud (which a skill, trust me!!), with your little muffin. It’s a skill to be able to draw attention of a child, by changing your volume, pace or voice.
You should pay attention to what you are reading. Make sure you reflect the drama and emotions through your voice. These emotions would also be visible on your face. The best trick here is to act silly.
It’s that time of the year that you can do something to make a change. And all you have to do to make this change is to turn your lights off for an hour on 25th March at 8:30 p.m.!!!
Here are some ideas of Fun activities to enjoy with your kids during the earth hour…
Sticky post
Being a mother must have made you hear a lot of comments from people about your baby, be it from your loved ones, or from strangers walking besides you on the street. I am sure most of the times we just laugh over a few comment, address a few other comments or a few comment makes you wonder why people have an opinion about everything.
You definitely need to find time for yourself . Yes!!! now that’s going to be a big task: FINDING TIME.
Here is what I did, and it definitely helped me get a ME time:
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”
I hope everyone reading this is having a really good day. And if you are not, just know that in every new minute that passes by you have an opportunity to change. It could be a complete transformation, an interchange or just an exchange of ideas, thoughts, feelings, and more importantly a refreshment of your MIND and by this you become different.