Stop your child from hitting : things to remember

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When should you stop a child from hitting?

I know it isn’t an easy task to figure out how to stop a child from hitting!
For the first time Parents it’s an even more shocking and tedious  process.

How one helps the child stop hitting would look different for different age groups, however in this post I would share my expertise of what worked for my thousands  of parents and kids clients.

Firstly  instead of feeling how your perfect child  could do something so mean,  GET TO WORK. Commit to addressing  it each time it happens.  With this it would be a short lived problem and could get over within a couple of months.
You could start with some of the tips right away (I will share those tips in my next post).

Truth: Your child understands you and is capable  of learning  Self Control

Kids can understand  way more than you think,  even before they start talking,  and they definitely  can decode your tone and body language. Most times we parents let a lot of behaviours  slide because we feel that the child isn’t  going to understand.
What I mean to say is that when your child starts hitting, he can understand  almost everything  you say and you must use your facial expressions  and tone to make your words more clear to him.

How long does the toddler hitting phase last?

Even though a hitting phase doesn’t last for long, it doesn’t go away on it’s own. As a parent you would have to work on it every time you see it happening  or this phase might end up staying for longer and might even get worse.

The only  bad news about this process is that it won’t be off the hook in a day or two.

But the Good news is that the earlier you start working  towards helping  your child, the better!

Also, the more calm and consistent  you are, the faster your child would understand  what’s  expected  and develop  a sense of self control.

Worried about your toddler hitting your new baby?

It’s possible to see changes right around the time a new baby becomes a part of the family. In most cases , it could be some kind of a development  timer as well.
However  it’s hard for Kids who demand more attention  and independence but aren’t  able to get it as much as they  would like due to the entry of a new baby.

To help your child develop  a healthy feeling  towards the baby and avoid any kind of jealousy,  allow  them to snuggle with you along with the baby.
Keep pointing  out how much the baby loved it when they ….(were gentle, danced,  sang, made the baby smile, etc).
Make sure you also spend one to one time each day with your child doing simple things that won’t exhaust you.

Stay tuned to my next post where I will share :  basic steps to get your child to stop hitting.

YOU CAN READ STEP 1 HERE: Stop your child from hitting : Step 1

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    1. Hello! I understand that you are concerned about your son’s behavior of raising his hand when he is not happy. It’s important to address this behavior early on, so that it doesn’t become a habit.

      One thing you can try is to talk to your son and explain to him that raising his hand when he is not happy is not an appropriate way to express his feelings. Encourage him to use his words instead, and help him practice by giving him examples of what he could say in different situations.

      It’s also important to model appropriate behavior for your son. When you’re not happy, show him how you express your feelings in a calm and constructive way, such as by talking things out with someone or taking a break to calm down.

      In addition, you can try using positive reinforcement to encourage your son to use his words instead of raising his hand. Praise him when he does express himself in a positive way, and try to redirect him when he starts to raise his hand by reminding him to use his words.

      Finally, if the behavior persists, it may be a good idea to consult with a child development specialist or therapist who can provide more tailored advice and support.

    1. Thank you for your comment! I’m glad to hear that you found the pointers in the article helpful. Dealing with hitting behavior in children can be challenging, but with the right approach and consistent effort, it’s possible to guide them towards more positive behavior. Let me know if you have any questions or further insights to share.

  1. Excellent post… I’ve never encountered this issue, so I’m not aware of it, but some parents wonder what to do when their children begin hitting. This post has helped me figure out what I need to tell them. This is an article worth sharing.

    1. Thank you for your comment and for sharing the article with others who may find it helpful. It’s important for parents to have resources and information on how to handle challenging behaviors in children. I’m glad you found the post informative and valuable, even if it’s not something you’ve personally experienced.

  2. Parents don’t realise that hitting can get serious if not stopped in time. You’ve rightly said that starting to stop sooner is always better and needs conscious effort.

    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Yes, hitting is a serious issue that should not be ignored, as it can lead to more aggressive behavior in the future. It’s important to start addressing the issue as soon as possible to prevent it from becoming a habit. Conscious effort and gentle correction can go a long way in helping children learn the appropriate ways to handle their emotions and conflicts.

  3. thankfully I have not had this issue with both my kids. though once in a while they fight with each other, they never hit or push anyone else, be it kids or elders.

  4. i agree talking solves many of the problems. Never underestimate your child, they are quite capable in understanding lot of things which as an adult we can’t. So talk to your child, lets them know what is good and what is not acceptable.

    1. I completely agree with you! As parents, we should never underestimate our children’s ability to understand and comprehend. Talking to them and explaining what is acceptable behavior and what is not is a great way to help them learn and grow. It’s important to remember that children are constantly learning, and as parents, we play a crucial role in shaping their understanding of the world around them. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

  5. The truth you shared is soo accurate. We often ignore a lot of things by saying the child is small however, we need to understand the truth and modulate our steps accordingly.

    1. Thank you for your comment. It’s important to recognize that even though children are young, their actions and behaviors can have significant impacts on themselves and others. As parents, it’s our responsibility to guide and support our children through their development and help them learn appropriate ways to express their emotions. I hope that the tips in this post are helpful for you in doing so.

  6. Oh these are wonderful tips from preventing the child to hit the little baby or other kids. I thing being gentle with them while putting your assertive point across as you said will surely work. True today kids understand more than we adults think they do.

    1. Great to hear that you found the tips helpful! Yes, children are very perceptive and can understand more than we give them credit for. It’s important to approach them with kindness and assertiveness, so they understand the impact of their actions without feeling attacked or criticized. Thanks for your comment!

    1. Thank you for your comment and for reading the post. It’s great to hear that you found the pointers helpful. You’re absolutely right, as parents, we can play an important role in supporting our children during this phase of development. It’s important to remember that every child is different and may have different needs, so we need to be attentive and understanding of their individual experiences. Thanks again for your feedback!

  7. I am a new parent and my child is just 10 months old. I have a habit of keeping things in mind when I learn about my future experiences and this post has certainly given few things to keep in mind.

    1. Thank you for taking the time to read my post and leaving a comment. I’m so glad to hear that you found the information helpful and that it has given you some insights for the future. As a new parent, it can be overwhelming to navigate the challenges of parenting, but always remember that every child is unique and what works for one may not work for another. Trust your instincts, stay present with your child, and seek support when needed. I wish you all the best in your parenting journey!

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