Stop your child from hitting : Step 1

Stop your child from hitting

Want to Stop your child from hitting?

Before you dive into this post, Please do Read: Stop your child from hitting : things to remember , which will help you understand
 why a child ends up hitting and when is an intervention important.
You can also read that post in brief here:

How to get your toddler to stop hitting:

In this post I  will share things that have proven to be helpful to me and my clients.
You know your child best, hence feel free to tweak  the suggestions  as per your comfort.

Since each step needs systematic  explanation  I have divided. the same into 4 parts . Read part 1 here .

Stop your child from hitting : Step 1

Remove your toddler and let them know that hitting isn’t  safe.

A 16 month or 2 year old kid ideally  has a very less attention  span, which means that technically  you would have to deal with biting, shoving or hitting the moment you see it happen.

Waiting even for a minute or until you get home isn’t going to help as by that time, they would have already forgotten the incident and won’t  be able to understand  the severity  of the situation.
Firstly  remove  them from the situation to discuss  the situation or hold them close if need  be.

When your kid tries to hit /bite , gently hold their arm and tell them, ” No, You cannot  hit. This isn’t  safe. Please be gentle.

I suggest parents to use the above phrase frequently for about 30 days, or until you notice your kid understanding  the new boundary and begin  to practice  self control ( in some cases the kid understands  in a few attempts  itself).

Stop your child from hitting

Should you react aggressively when you want to Stop your child from hitting?

Naah!  You must stay calm when this happens. Watch the kid calmly and wait for
their reaction.
There are quite a number of possible outcomes of this:
Your kid might  start crying, throw a big tantrum or they might even try to squirm free in order to attempt doing it again.
They might get mad or be embarrassed. Or might end up staring at you to see your reaction.

Whatever  is the reaction, you must try to stay calm ( I know it can be really hard to hold in your true feelings, but remember, staying  calm is extremely  necessary if you want to help your kid). Tell the kid  your expectation in a simple and gentle tone. Shaming the kid or giving them a big lecture should be avoided completely, however  don’t  allow them to keep doing it.


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One more important  thing to do here:

Is to honestly asses your own tone and reaction whenever your kid tries to punch, hit or bite.

Doing this is important  as I totally understand  that raising a kid can make you lose your cool at times, and staying  calm and taking charge of your own emotions as parents can get difficult  too sometimes.

The idea is to showcase the behaviour  we expect  from our kids. We can’t  expect kids to be gentle with people around  if we ourselves have a threatening tone or are unable to control our temper.

I hope this post takes your closer to your goal as a parent.

Stay around as I will be sharing the next steps  in the coming days.

Until then stay safe  and take care of yourselves.

Much love,
Preetjyot Kaur
𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗱 ( 𝗖𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗲𝘂𝗿𝗼 𝗟𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘂𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 (𝗡𝗟𝗣),
𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀 & 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵


Read: Stop your child from hitting : things to remember

Read: Stop your child from hitting : Step 2

Read: Life Coach For kids who could help your kids reach their goals.

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Stop your child from hitting

Preetjyot Kaur
Preetjyot Kaur is an Internationally Accredited Life Coach for Kids and a Certified Parenting Coach who strongly believes in breaking the stereotypes. She helps her clients to learn how to fulfil their dreams by helping them train their mind, manage emotions & energy to achieve what they truly desire. For over 6 years she has mentored quite a number of kids and parents to move closer to a better way of living.

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