Want to Stop your child from hitting?
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How to get your toddler to stop hitting:
In this post I will share things that have proven to be helpful to me and my clients.
You know your child best, hence feel free to tweak the suggestions as per your comfort.
Since each step needs systematic explanation I have divided. the same into 4 parts . Read part 1 here .
Stop your child from hitting : Step 1
Remove your toddler and let them know that hitting isn’t safe.
A 16 month or 2 year old kid ideally has a very less attention span, which means that technically you would have to deal with biting, shoving or hitting the moment you see it happen.
Waiting even for a minute or until you get home isn’t going to help as by that time, they would have already forgotten the incident and won’t be able to understand the severity of the situation.
Firstly remove them from the situation to discuss the situation or hold them close if need be.
When your kid tries to hit /bite , gently hold their arm and tell them, ” No, You cannot hit. This isn’t safe. Please be gentle.“
I suggest parents to use the above phrase frequently for about 30 days, or until you notice your kid understanding the new boundary and begin to practice self control ( in some cases the kid understands in a few attempts itself).
Should you react aggressively when you want to Stop your child from hitting?
Naah! You must stay calm when this happens. Watch the kid calmly and wait for
There are quite a number of possible outcomes of this:
Your kid might start crying, throw a big tantrum or they might even try to squirm free in order to attempt doing it again.
They might get mad or be embarrassed. Or might end up staring at you to see your reaction.
Whatever is the reaction, you must try to stay calm ( I know it can be really hard to hold in your true feelings, but remember, staying calm is extremely necessary if you want to help your kid). Tell the kid your expectation in a simple and gentle tone. Shaming the kid or giving them a big lecture should be avoided completely, however don’t allow them to keep doing it.
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One more important thing to do here:
Is to honestly asses your own tone and reaction whenever your kid tries to punch, hit or bite.
Doing this is important as I totally understand that raising a kid can make you lose your cool at times, and staying calm and taking charge of your own emotions as parents can get difficult too sometimes.
The idea is to showcase the behaviour we expect from our kids. We can’t expect kids to be gentle with people around if we ourselves have a threatening tone or are unable to control our temper.
I hope this post takes your closer to your goal as a parent.
Stay around as I will be sharing the next steps in the coming days.
Until then stay safe and take care of yourselves.
𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗔𝗰𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗱 ( 𝗖𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗱) 𝗡𝗲𝘂𝗿𝗼 𝗟𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘂𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 (𝗡𝗟𝗣),
𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗸𝗶𝗱𝘀 & 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵
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